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For other uses, see Romantic (disambiguation).

Romantic (Known as Act Romantic in The Urbz: Sims in the City) is a type of social interaction that has appeared in The Sims era games along with Mean and Friendly. In the era of The Sims, Romance socials can only be used by adults. As of The Sims 2 and The Sims Stories, teens through elders can use Romance socials, though some may not be available to teens. In The Sims 3 and The Sims Medieval, all romantic socials will change the Short-Term Context to romantic (flirty/very alluring/extremely irresistible). In The Sims 4, romantic socials may make Sims feel Flirty.

In The Sims 2 and later games, romantic socials will affect the gender preference of Sims who engage in them. The "Check Sim Out" interaction in The Sims 2: Nightlife can be used to rate a specific Sim for attraction. This may affect the feelings of not only the Sim initiating it, but the Sim being checked upon. Because of this, the Sim being checked upon may autonomously end up initiating flirty interactions with the Sim that was checking them out, usually provided they have a compatible chemistry.

Social properties
Game User Sim Target Sim
The Sims


The Sims 2 onwards Teen Teen
The Sims 2 onwards Young Adult, Adult, and Elder Young Adult, Adult, and Elder
Short term status
1st 2nd 3rd
Flirty Very alluring Extremely Irresistible


The Sims Era[]

One advantage of Romance socials is that they can be used to make Sims become lovers. If the relationship is at or over 70[TS][1][TSC][TSBO] or 60[TU:SITC] when the romance social ends, the relationship is changed to lover. If the relationship goes further than this, the Sims will be able to propose and get married.

In the revised relationship system introduced in Hot Date, Sims develop a crush relationship if the daily relationship is over 70 when the romance social ends. If the lifetime relationship is over 70 when the romance social ends, the relationship is changed to lover.

The Sims 2[]

Like in The Sims: Hot Date, Sims get a crush relationship if their daily relationship is at 70 after doing a romantic social, and a love relationship if their lifetime relationship is at 70. Young adults[TS2:U], adults, and elders can WooHoo with other young adults, adults, or elders of either gender that they have a crush on and are close to being in love with. Usually they will fall in love after WooHooing if they weren't already. Adult females and adult or elder males may Try for Baby with a Sim of the opposite gender to have a baby.

The Sims 3 and The Sims Medieval[]

Romantic socials are used to build a romantic relationship. Romantic socials will only work if the Sim has 40% of the relationship or if the Sims are friends, but some traits will affect this. As in earlier games, Romantic socials are used to get a romantic relationship, and eventually marriage, between two Sims. The Flirty and Hopeless Romantic traits are useful for the Romantic socials. Most types of Young Adult or Adult Sims and Elder Male Sims (except for Mummies, Simbots, and Plumbots) that get the "extremely irresistible" STC (Short-Term Context), can "Try for baby" with a Sim that is a different gender.


See also: Affair

However, one disadvantage of using romance socials is that cheating can occur. If the cheating occurs, it can cause a Sim to lose 50 relationship points[TS][TSC][TS:BO][TU:SITC]. In The Sims 2 and The Sims Stories, about 100 points can be lost. In The Sims 3 and The Sims Medieval, it can cause the Sims to use lose some relationship when using romance socials. In The Sims 3, the Unflirty trait can decrease the effectiveness of Romance socials.

As The Sims did not sort the socials, players were unsure of what socials were Romantic. The Sims 2 and The Urbz: Sims in the City resolved this problem by categorizing the socials so players know what socials are romantic.

Romance socials are not recommended for general socialization with other Sims, Friendly and Funny socials are more useful for this.

Cheating can be prevented in The Sims 3 if the Sim has the Lifetime reward No Jealousy[TS3:WA].


The effectiveness of Romantic socials vary by game. In The Sims 2 and The Sims Stories, Romantic socials have no effect on Sims with a bad mood. In The Sims 3 and The Sims Medieval, Romantic socials usually have no effect on Sims that are below Friends although Ask if Single and Ask Sign will work.

Other Social Types[]


  • While most games allow Romantic socials to be used, The Sims FreePlay requires the Love is in the Air Quest to be completed before any Romantic socials can be used.


  1. This presumes the single-scale relationship bar used in the original release of The Sims.